How To Get Your Girlfriend Back The Right Way

How To Get Your Girlfriend Back ASAP

Do you want to get your girlfriend back? Have you just lost the girl you want most in this world? Do you feel her slipping further and further away from you, and know that the chance of finding another girlfriend like her ever again is next to impossible?

Here at Develop Attraction I can show you how you can get your girlfriend back and keep her attracted to you.

Top 10 Ways to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

  1. Understand why your ex girlfriend lost attraction for you
  2. Introduce space into the relationship
  3. Change the way you interact with your Ex
  4. Kill the bad memories your ex girlfriend has of you
  5. Use “No contact” to capture her attention
  6. Use the Fading Effect Bias to your advantage
  7. Hard reset your ex girlfriend’s impression of you
  8. Rebuild attraction and establish contact with your ex gf
  9. Restart the relationship and ignite attraction
  10. Get the Get Her Back (Action Plan) to learn how to do all this!

Here’s how I can help you:

— Get your girlfriend back.
— Keep her interested in you.
— Increase her attraction for you.
— Get her to want you more than any other man.
— Become so attractive she’ll do anything for you.

Does it make you angry that you were so close to getting your girl, but somehow she slipped through your fingers?

Right now you might be feeling disrespected, betrayed, and feel like your girlfriend’s played you like a fool. I know this feeling and I understand your frustration.

You might also feel like your girlfriend could really love you and really care about you if only she knew how great you were (you’re probably right, and in the Get Her Back (action plan) I have the perfect solution that shows exactly what you need to do to get your girlfriend to fall in love with you.

I can show you how to get your girlfriend back so that she not only wants to be with you, but she craves and desires you like no other man.

I can show you how to get a girl to fall in love with you and be fully committed to you only. Even if she left you for a rich guy, a loser, or your best friend—it doesn’t matter.

I have the solution for you. But first, it’s important to understand why your girlfriend lost interest in you…

Now, there’s a lot of information here for you to read, but it’s crucial that we go through everything on this page together to help you understand what’s going on. By reading through the information on this page, you’ll be able to analyze and diagnose the exact reason/reasons why your girlfriend left you.

Once you understand this, I’ll be able to provide you with the perfect solution (plus action plan) to show you how to get your girlfriend back–with interest!

Get Your Girlfriend Back by Rebuilding Attraction

This is the number #1 reason why women break up with their boyfriends. In fact, it’s the only reason. Don’t believe me?

Think about this…

If you don’t do and say the right things around your girlfriend, she’ll lose attraction for you.

If you don’t escalate things properly and lead her the right way, she’ll lose attraction for you.

If you don’t have intimacy with your girlfriend, she’ll lose attraction for you.

If she cheats on you, she’ll lose attraction for you.

If other guys are able to lead her the right way, she’ll lose attraction for you.

Girl’s who are highly attracted to their boyfriends don’t break up with them. The good news, however, is that I can show you how to develop attraction with ease.

If your girlfriend has broken up with you and you want to win her back, it’s crucial that you know how to develop attraction and get her thinking about you.

That being said, getting a woman attracted to you is easier said than done. But it’s really easy to do once you know how to do it.

Let’s take a look at all the reasons (yes, all the reasons) why a woman loses attraction for a man and leaves him. As we go through each of these scenarios, I want you to think to yourself, “does this apply to me?”


Read More: Girlfriend Lost Attraction For You and She’s Distant and Cold

If You Care Too Much You Won’t Get Her Back

It’s horrible to find yourself in this situation, but when you care more about your girlfriend than she cares about you, then you’re in trouble… big trouble!

When a man cares more about a woman, he’s sub-consciously communicating to her that she is higher value than him and he’s lower value than her; to a woman, this is an instant attraction killer.

A woman wants a man that is higher value than her, so that she can feel secure in the knowledge that he can protect her and provide good DNA for her unborn babies. All women want men who are strong and confident (even when they tell you they don’t).

A man that is lower value screams weakness, danger, insecurity and is a bad mating choice for a woman. As unromantic as it all sounds, the way a woman acts and responds to you is grounded in biology.

Read More: You’ll Lose Your Girlfriend if You Care More

Get Your Girlfriend Back by Raising Your Value

man-putting-a-woman-on-a-pedastalScarce resources are always more valuable. That’s why art, antiques and collectors items can be sold for so much money!

It’s also the same reason why men give so much value to a single woman—because (right or wrong) these men believe that they’ll never meet a girl like her ever again.

The problem with this thinking is that it tells your ex girlfriend, again, that she is higher value than you—that is why she is now your ex girlfriend and why she has lost attraction for you. You gave away your own value by giving her way too much value and importance.

Read More: Don’t Put Women on a Pedestal

Did You Have Intimacy With Your Girlfriend?

This is a big one. Right now your girlfriend is acting cold and distant.

Indeed, your girlfriend might already have packed her bags and left you with no intention of coming back.

That’s why it’s crucial that I ask this question: have you had intimacy with your girlfriend yet? If you haven’t, your chance of getting your girlfriend back decreases significantly—by at least 80%.

Having intimacy with your girlfriend is one of the most important things you can do if you want to keep her around. If you haven’t had intimacy with your girlfriend yet, then it’s crucial that you do so ASAP.

Too Many Compliments Won’t Get Her Back

You’ve got to compliment a woman, I mean, isn’t that what society tells us to do? Bzzzz, wrong answer!

Complimenting a woman is one of the worst things you can do. Unfortunately, I see this all the time with guys throwing compliments at their girlfriends like candy (yes, this includes “liking” all her posts on Facebook too).

What is every other guy who likes a girl doing? That’s right, they’re throwing compliments at her. All this does is satisfy her ego and kill any attraction she might have for these men.

Do you now see the problem?

Buying Gifts Won’t Get Your Girlfriend Back

boyfriend-constantly-buying-gifts-for-girlfriendWe see it all the time in the movies…

“Boyfriend and girlfriend break up, and the man, distraught, comes up with a master plan to get his girlfriend back… he turns up at some romantic location with flowers and the girl instantly falls in love with him again. Long live the happy couple. End of movie.”

In reality, the same guy turns up at a romantic location to surprise the girl with flowers. Embarrassed, the girl reluctantly accepts his offering, cringing inwardly at her ex boyfriends pathetic gesture and public display of weakness. The girl’s attraction for her ex boyfriend has now completely evaporated.

Best case scenario: you give a woman a gift and she thinks it’s a nice gesture. Subconsciously, however, several thoughts are swirling around inside your girlfriend’s head.

Read More: The Best Gift to Buy a Woman

Were You Always Trying To Get Your Girlfriend To Commit To You?

Are you guilty of this major relationship sin?

A lot of guys sense their girlfriend pulling away from them and they panic. Their immediate response is to try and lock their girlfriend down and get their girlfriend to commit to them. Bad idea.

Not only does this tell your girlfriend that you’re scared of losing her, it also makes her terrified that she’s going to lose her freedom.

A woman is like a cat, if you try to restrict her freedom and control her she will run away from you.

Don’t Try to Text Your Ex Girlfriend Back

boyfriend-texting-girlfriend-too-muchI’ve dealt with thousands of guys who’ve made this mistake, so you’re in good company.

I get it, I really do. When you like a girl you want to talk to her. You want to reach out and send her cute messages and have a strong connection with her.

But did you know that the more you initiate contact with your girlfriend the less attraction she will feel for you.

The simple truth is that if you’re always starting conversations with your girlfriend, whether through text or phone, you’re showing her that you’re chasing her and that she’s more important to you than you are to her.

Read More: Girlfriend Doesn’t Respond to Text Messages

Don’t Try to Get Your Ex Back by Saying, “I Love You.”

It’s great to love your girlfriend and it’s tempting to constantly express your love and affection towards her.

But if you’re constantly telling your girlfriend that you love her and can’t get enough of her, then you’re setting yourself up for a fall, and she WILL eventually leave you.

Men who are very loving and kind towards their girlfriends are often shocked when their girlfriend leaves them out of nowhere (they didn’t even see it coming).

These same men also believe that they can get their girlfriend back by escalating their affection even more, by telling their girlfriend how much they love her (sub-communicating: weakness, no challenge, and lower-value).

Were You Always Trying To Please Her?

trying-to-hard-to-please-a-womanA lot of the time girls will make lots of demands and ask their boyfriends to buy them things and do things for them to in order to make them happy. Beware of this trap!

This scenarios is played out in thousands of different ways and guises across the world, but a classic example of this is when a girl goes shopping and sees something that she likes. The girl will then ask her boyfriend to buy something for her because “it will make her happy.” Hold up!

Did You Always Ask Her Opinion (letting her make decisions for you)?

man-unsure-how-to-lead-girlfriend-properlyIn the West, equal rights is the most important thing. Men and women are equal and best not forget it.

The problem with this attitude which has been drilled into us by society and culture is that men start thinking that they have to ask their girlfriend’s opinion on everything.

This includes letting their girlfriend make decisions for them. Now, don’t get me wrong, I love women, but it’s important to understand that in order to keep a woman and prevent her from leaving you, you need to take the lead in a relationship (this is nature’s natural order—despite what society and culture might tell you).

Did You Try To Apologize to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back?

man-doesn't-know-how-to-talk-to-girlfriendMen apologize too much. We apologize because our girlfriend isn’t happy. We apologize when she’s upset. We apologize when we make a mistake. We even apologize when our girlfriend makes a mistake!

Apologizing and saying “sorry” doesn’t win you any brownie points with your girlfriend. In fact, it lowers her opinion of you and makes her doubt you.

Apologizing kills attraction and will only add flames to a breakup if you try to get your girlfriend back by constantly apologizing for all the bad things you’ve done (and haven’t done).

Read More: Never Apologize and Say Sorry to Women

Were You Always Trying To Touch Your Girlfriend?

Human touch is a wonderful thing, it feels great and it bonds us closer to our partner by flooding our brains with oxytocin.

When you love your girlfriend you want to touch her, to hold her close and kiss her. You want to take her hand in yours and put your arm around her. But cool your jets a minute and slow down…

The important thing to ask yourself is this: were you the one in the relationship that was always initiating contact with your girlfriend?

Remember, what I mentioned earlier about sub-communication? The same applies here.

When you initiate contact with your girlfriend you’re sub-communicating to her that you need her touch more than she needs yours at that particular moment in time.

Read More: Touch a Woman the Right Way

Did You Try To Control Your Girlfriend And Restrict Her Freedom?

One of the main complaints I hear from women is that they are suffocating in a relationship and need space.

Unfortunately, a lot of guys don’t understand this and they insist on smothering their girlfriend and restricting her freedom until one day she’s had enough and she leaves him.

Now in this instance, I’m not talking about the small percentage of men who try to control their girlfriends through physical and verbal abuse.

I’m talking about the men who try to lock their girlfriend’s down either by getting her to make a commitment to him, or by monitoring his girlfriend’s every move and constantly checking up on her.

Freedom is the most important thing in this world. And the greatest gift we can give our partner is the freedom to choose us. Would you like to be locked up in a cage like some poor animal in the zoo? No, of course you wouldn’t. A woman is no different.

Do Your Girlfriend’s Family And Friends Disapprove Of You?

parents-don't-approve-of-boyfriendThere are times when your girlfriend’s family and friends won’t support your relationship. This seems to be happening a lot these days.

Sometimes her friends and family are jealous that you get to spend more time with her than they do. Sometimes they simply just don’t approve of you (this can be for any number of reasons from personality differences, income, race, religion, age, education, culture, job, social status etc.).

When this happens your girlfriend’s family and friends might do everything they can to sabotage your relationship, and they’ll do everything they can to make you look bad in her eyes. They might bad mouth you, they might spread lies, and sometimes they might even act in a hostile manner towards your girlfriend until she takes their advice and breaks up with you.

As infuriating and frustrating as this can be, it’s important to stay cool when this happens. I know your relationship with your girlfriend is no one else’s business, but your girlfriend, as a woman, can’t help but be influenced by those close to her—their love, friendship and opinions matters to her too.

So how do you get your ex girlfriend back when she succumbs to the pressure of those around her and breaks up with you to make them happy?

Read More: Do This If Your Girlfriend’s Friends Talk Bad About You

Are You Jealous Of Other Men Talking To Your Girlfriend?

Do you ever get jealous when other men start talking to your girlfriend?

If you do, it’s important to understand that jealousy is a perfectly normal human emotion. Despite what people say, it’s not wrong to feel jealous. In fact, there’s nothing you can do to stop yourself from feeling it.

Humans have evolved a set of emotions in order to ensure our survival (these emotions include fear, anger, surprise, and disgust). Jealousy is simply another emotion that we have evolved to protect ourselves from being cheated on.

If you’re the jealous type and your girlfriend’s broken up with you, there’s a very good chance that you’ve taken your jealousy too far. Excessive jealousy will tell your girlfriend that you’re insecure and don’t have enough confidence and belief in your own self-worth.

Read More: What to Do When Your Girlfriend Makes You Jealous

Does She Act Bitchy, Moody And Disrespectful Towards You?

If your girlfriend has dumped you or is going cold on you, then it’s normal to expect a certain level of bitchiness from her.

But I want you to look back on your relationship for a moment. Has your girlfriend always acted bitchy, moody and generally disrespectful towards you, or is this a recent thing?

Your girlfriend will only act this way towards you if she’s still uncertain about you, is testing you, or is generally dissatisfied with your behavior. In all these scenarios, your girlfriend has a lower than optimal level of attraction for you and you need to do something about that fast.

Read More: How to Deal with a Bitchy and Disrespectful Girlfriend 

Did You Try to Change to Get your Girlfriend Back?

It’s often tempting when we really like a girl to want to get her to like us no matter what.

If you found yourself changing your behavior and personality to please your girlfriend then you’re not being true to yourself and your girlfriend will pick up on this. Remember, women are sensitive creatures and they easily pick up on behavior that isn’t authentic and genuine.

You might be able to fool a woman for a short time, but it won’t take your girlfriend long to realize that your words and actions lack honesty and come from a place of insecurity.

Read More: Never Change for Your Girlfriend, Unless…

Did You Spend Quality Time With Her?

Spending quality time with your girlfriend is what separates you from all the other men out there.

It’s what draws you closer together and makes her feel close to you.

If you aren’t spending quality time with your girlfriend, then your girlfriend will go looking for intimacy from someone else.

Women need constant care. If you haven’t been able to spend quality time (by quality I mean time when she is able to share her feelings with you and be intimate with you), then it’s going to be hard to get much devotion and loyalty from your girlfriend.

Did You Find It Hard To Be Open Around Your Girlfriend?

Do you find yourself holding back with your girlfriend? Are you constantly worried that you’ll do or say something wrong around her?

If this sounds like you, then you’re probably reluctant to reveal your true thoughts and feelings to your girlfriend. While it’s always a good idea to hold a little bit back (you don’t want to give away the shop), you want to able to feel free to communicate your thoughts, feelings and demands to your girlfriend.

There are many reasons why this is important, but when it comes to getting your ex girlfriend back, there is one reason why being open is so important. Being open and honest is a huge attraction boost for a woman.

Is Your Girlfriend Still Hung Up On Her Ex Boyfriend

girlfriend-thinking-about-ex-boyfriendThis happens a lot! Girl dates boy, girl can’t stop thinking about ex boyfriend, so she breaks up with boy, hoping to get back with her ex boyfriend.

I’ve seen this scenario played out thousands of times, and it’s going to keep playing out for as long as the human race exists. So, if you find yourself in this situation and you’re trying to win your ex girlfriend over while she’s busy thinking about her ex boyfriend, then there are a couple of things you need to be aware of.

Did You Try to Talk Your Girlfriend Into Coming Back?

man-doesn't-know-how-to-attract-girlWhile it’s true that men are visual creatures, women are audio dominant—this means that it is words that capture her attention and her heart.

Put the most handsome man next to a great talker and the woman will choose the best talker nine times out of ten.

For a lot of men, however, talking to their girlfriend is a sticking point. It’s something they find difficult, it doesn’t come naturally and they overthink things. This ultimately hinders the seduction process and, in most cases, it stops a man’s girlfriend from ever really connecting with him.

Read More: Use the Power of Words to Make Her Want You 

Get Your Girlfriend Back

If you’re reading this then I can tell that you’re serious about getting your girlfriend back. This is great news because it means that you already have the motivation to succeed—now all you need is a tight game plan.

That’s where I come in. As a trained psychologist and relationship expert, I’ve made it my focus over the last seven years to help men resolve their relationship problems and win their girlfriends back.

For each of the scenarios mentioned above, I can provide you with the best strategy to get your girlfriend back—no matter how distant and withdrawn she seems right now.

Let me tell you a secret that 99% of guys and girls don’t know. A woman is driven by biology. What a woman thinks she likes and wants and what she actually likes and wants are two separate things.

That’s why you should never take a woman’s advice, especially when it comes to relationships. Most women don’t realize what they actually want and like, until someone suddenly takes them by surprise and does the unexpected.

Now I can help you out here. I can draw on all my years of relationship coaching and psychology training to help you know exactly what your girlfriend wants and needs.

Be warned—I offer foolproof strategies to make your girlfriend fall in love with you and desire only you—if you don’t sincerely want this from your girlfriend, then I strongly advise you to stop reading right now.

If, however, you’re serious about getting your girlfriend back then I’m the man to speak to. Whatever your situation, I recommend going to the emergency help page and getting in touch with me. From there I’ll be able to show you how to get your girlfriend back and attracted to you like never before.

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It’s a scientifically proven fact that women move on faster than men after a relationship break-up (The Journal of Evolutionary Behavioral Sciences). That’s why it’s crucial that you do all you can to get your girlfriend back as soon as possible before she ends up in the arms of another man.