Impressing your girlfriend can be an intimidating task. On the one hand, you want to show her that you are the right partner for her and that you care deeply about her. On the other hand, you may feel like she has more power in the relationship and that if you don’t impress her, she could leave. This fear of losing her can be daunting and cause a lot of stress.
Case Study: She’s Not Impressed
Jacob was a young man who had been dating his girlfriend for a few months. He was deeply in love with her and wanted to show her how much he cared. He wanted to take her out on a romantic date, buy her flowers, and do something special to make sure she knew how he felt.
However, Jacob was struggling financially. He had recently lost his job and had not been able to find another one yet. He had little money to spare and no way of doing anything special for his girlfriend without it. This made him feel helpless and frustrated as he wanted to impress her but could not because of his financial situation.
Jacob thought of different ways he could show his love for his girlfriend without needing money, but nothing seemed good enough. He thought about taking her out for a romantic walk or writing her a poem, but even those ideas seemed inadequate compared to the grand gestures he wanted to make.
In the end, Jacob decided that the best thing he could do was simply express his love for her in words and be as present with her as possible in the meantime. He told her how much she meant to him, cooked dinner for them both, and spent as much quality time with her as he could manage.
The gesture may have been simple but it was enough for Jacob’s girlfriend who appreciated all of his effort nonetheless. She knew that even though Jacob couldn’t make grand gestures right now because of their financial situation, she still meant the world to him and that made all the difference in the world. So why then did Sarah still have zero attraction for Jacob?
Advice That Never Works
Before we look at the different ways to impress your girlfriend, let’s take a look at the traditional advice on how to impress your girlfriend (which never works).
Top 5 Useless Ways to Impress Your Girlfriend
1. Show your affection: Express your love for her in tangible and meaningful ways. Give her compliments, surprise her with thoughtful gifts or acts of service, and spend quality time together.
2. Listen to her: Pay attention to what she has to say and take an active interest in the things that are important to her. Show that you value her opinions and respect her decisions.
3. Be supportive: Be there for your girlfriend when she needs you, whether it’s a shoulder to cry on or a helping hand with a difficult situation. Let her know that you’re always there for her no matter what.
4. Make time for each other: Even if you’re busy, make sure to set aside time specifically for spending with your girlfriend. Quality time together will help strengthen your relationship and build trust between the two of you.
5. Make an effort: Showing effort is one of the best ways to impress someone, so make sure to go out of your way every once in a while to do something special for your girlfriend. Whether it’s cooking dinner or planning a weekend away together, taking initiative will show how much you care about making your relationship work.
What the Science Says
A recent study conducted by the University of Michigan’s Institute for Social Research sought to explore what factors most impress girls. The study surveyed 805 female college students, asking them to rate a variety of factors that could potentially be seen as impressive.
The study found that the most impressive factor to girls was intelligence *but in reality attractiveness is far more important. Women will report one thing and want another thing altogether.
This was followed closely by ambition and success, indicating that girls are looking for partners who are driven and have the potential for a bright future. Additionally, girls were found to be more impressed by physical attractiveness than boys were in previous studies. Other traits that ranked highly in terms of impressiveness included humor, kindness, and generosity.
The results of this study suggest that girls are looking for partners who possess a combination of qualities, including intelligence, ambition, physical attractiveness, and generosity. While these qualities may differ from girl to girl depending on individual preferences and values, it is clear that these traits can make someone more attractive in the eyes of a potential partner.
What Impresses a Woman
Women are attracted to men who have a higher value than them because they see them as a challenge and are drawn to the idea of being able to win over someone who is seemingly out of reach.
Women like men who can challenge them intellectually and emotionally by having different opinions, values, and perspectives. They also appreciate men who can offer them stability, security, and a sense of purpose in life.
Men who are higher value than women may also be seen as more mature and experienced, which can be attractive qualities for many women.
Additionally, high-value men are often seen as more confident and successful in their chosen pursuits, which can be attractive traits to many women.
Raise Your Value
These are the best ways to raise your value as a man and impress your girlfriend.
1. Improve Your Wardrobe: Invest in quality clothing and accessories that fit you well and make you look confident. Make sure your wardrobe reflects the image you want to portray to the world.
2. Work Out: Regular exercise will help you look better, feel better, and be more confident in your own skin. Working out can also help improve your mental health and self-esteem, which can make a huge difference in how others perceive you.
3. Improve Your Skills: Take classes, read books, or attend seminars to improve on existing skills or learn new ones that can help you get ahead in life.
4. Focus on Your Business: If you own a business or are looking to start one, focus on improving it every day and make sure it is something that you are passionate about. This will show others that you have ambition and drive—two things that are highly valued by many employers.
5. Network: Make it a point to meet new people, both professionally and socially, as this can help build relationships with those who share common interests or have similar goals as yours. You never know what opportunities may arise from these connections.
Remember, do it, but don’t talk about it. Women aren’t impressed by talkers, they are impressed by doers.
Alpha Males Impress
Women are often attracted to men who exhibit characteristics of an alpha male. An alpha male is confident, assertive, and ambitious. He is not afraid to take risks and speak his mind. He is also strong, decisive, and has a strong sense of self-worth. In contrast, a beta male tends to be more passive and submissive. He often follows the lead of others rather than taking charge himself.
Alpha males typically have an air of power and control that can be incredibly attractive to women. They are seen as more reliable, trustworthy, and capable than beta males.
They are also seen as more desirable partners because they have the potential to provide stability and security in a relationship. Alpha males have a natural confidence that makes them appear successful and desirable in the eyes of many women.
In addition, alpha males tend to be more charismatic than their beta counterparts. This charisma can make them appear even more attractive in the eyes of women who are looking for someone with leadership qualities.
Women often feel safer around alpha males because they know they can trust them to protect them in any situation.
Women Are Unimpressed by Simps
If you’re a simp, your girlfriend will never be impressed by you. Women are unimpressed by simps for many reasons. Simps are often seen as needy, clingy, and too eager to please. Women don’t want someone who is constantly trying to get their attention and approval, nor do they want someone who is too eager to give it.
Simps are often seen as weak and too willing to sacrifice their own needs and desires in order to please the woman in their life. This type of behavior can be seen as desperate and unattractive.
Simping can also be interpreted as a lack of self-respect or confidence. Women want someone who is confident in themselves and has a strong sense of self-worth. By simping, it can come across as if the person doesn’t truly value themselves or respect their own boundaries.
Women want a partner who respects themselves enough to stand up for what they believe in, not someone who will do anything just to get the approval of another person.
Ultimately, women want someone who is confident, secure, and independent. They want someone who will challenge them intellectually, emotionally, and physically without being too pushy or clingy.
She Must See You as High Value
In order for your girlfriend to be impressed by you, she must see you as higher value than her. This means that she must recognize and appreciate the qualities, skills, and traits that make you unique – qualities that she may not possess.
She must see that you have something special to offer her and the relationship. This could include things like your intelligence, ambition, creativity, humor, or kindness. It could also include qualities related to your lifestyle or career such as financial responsibility, success at work, or a strong sense of adventure.
By seeing you as higher value than her, she will be more likely to be impressed by the things you do and say and be drawn to the things that make you stand out from others. Remember, women don’t want to be with low value men. They want to be with men who have relatively higher value than themselves.
A woman would rather share an alpha male with other women than be exclusive with a beta male.
Feminine Energy Doesn’t Impress
Too much feminine energy will not impress your girlfriend because it will make you appear overly relationship-focused and needy. Your girlfriend wants to see that you are confident and driven in life, not just when it comes to the relationship. She wants to be with a man who is focused on his mission and purpose, and is not too clingy or dependent on her for validation.
Masculine energy is what will truly impress your girlfriend. A man with strong masculine energy is self-reliant and independent, yet still demonstrates traits such as courage, leadership, and strength. He is able to take risks, handle challenges head-on, and be a source of strength for his partner. He also knows how to have fun and enjoy life without relying too much on his partner for emotional support.
It’s important for men to understand the balance between masculine and feminine energy in order to have an attractive relationship dynamic with their partners. Too much of either one can be detrimental, so be sure to focus on cultivating both in order to maximize your potential as a partner.
Gifts and Grand Gestures Don’t Impress
Buying gifts and making grand gestures for your girlfriend may seem like a good idea on the surface, but it can actually be a turn-off to your girlfriend. These types of gestures often come across as desperate attempts to win her approval or show her how much you care.
This type of behavior can make you look low value and relationship focused, which can be a major turn-off for many women.
In addition, grand gestures can also make your girlfriend feel uncomfortable or obligated to respond in a certain way. This type of pressure can make her feel like she has to say yes or thank you in order to not hurt your feelings, which is not the kind of connection that builds strong relationships.
It’s important to remember that relationships are about far more than just gifts and grand gestures.
Don’t Try to Impress Her
Trying too hard to impress your girlfriend can actually have the opposite effect. Women appreciate when men are confident, relaxed, and genuine. They don’t want someone who is trying too hard to show off and prove themselves.
When you try to impress your girlfriend, you risk coming off as desperate or insecure. She may feel like you’re trying to buy her affections instead of genuinely connecting with her. It’s important that she feels like she can trust you and that you are being sincere in your feelings for her.
The best way to impress your girlfriend is to be yourself and take the time to get to know her. Showing genuine interest in her life and getting to know who she is as a person will be much more meaningful than any grand gesture or gift. Women appreciate when their significant other takes the time to really listen and understand them.
By not trying too hard, you will come across as confident, secure, and genuine – qualities that all women want in a partner. Showing that you care about what she thinks by asking for her opinion and respecting it will also go a long way in making her feel special and appreciated.
In the end, not trying too hard is the best way to impress your girlfriend because it shows that you respect her enough to be yourself around her without having to put on a show or prove yourself in any way. That kind of connection is what true love is all about!
Give Her What She Needs
Most women will “think” that they want a guy who is always there for them. A man who is always sweet, loving, caring, responsive and available. Someone who will always be there for her when she needs him.
These women think that if they have a man who is nice they will be happy. There’s a big difference between giving a woman what she wants as opposed to what she needs.
Notice, if you give a woman a sweet, loving, caring, responsive man, she loses interest in the man and starts to treat him with disrespect and a lack of appreciation.
On the other hand, you must give her what she needs. Women need to be with men who are strong, confident, mission focused (not relationship focused).
This is part of the reason why women subconsciously test men. They are testing for strength and weakness (emotional instability). If you are focused on pleasing her and making her happy, she will see you as weak over the long-run because you are too relationship focused and easily swayed by her.
Women don’t like men who are vulnerable to a woman’s manipulations because it means that other women can easily influence you as well. On the other hand, if you are stable and confident and unaffected by her behavior, she will come to see you as truly strong and masculine.
Now, if you start acting sweet and responsive you might be rewarded in the short-term and she might actually be happy for a week or two. But it won’t take long for her happiness to turn to disdain and resentment as she comes to see you as weak and submissive.
Impress Your Girlfriend with Ambition
Your girlfriend will be impressed by ambition and purpose because it shows that you have a clear vision of where you want to go in life and the drive to reach those goals. It demonstrates your commitment to achieving success and indicates that you are willing to put in the hard work and dedication necessary to get there.
When a person is ambitious and has a strong sense of purpose, it implies that they are reliable and have a future (a strong indicator of masculine energy). Your girlfriend will appreciate these qualities because it means she can trust in your ability to take care of yourself, as well as her.
Ambition and purpose also demonstrate leadership skills, which can be attractive qualities in a partner. Finally, ambition and purpose show that you are goal-oriented and focused on achieving the things that you want out of life. This kind of determination is admirable and inspiring, something your girlfriend will no doubt find attractive.