If you want to impress a girl and stand out from other guys, you’ll need to increase your value to become irresistible to women and capture their interest.
How to Impress a Girl
- Stand out from other men
- Take risks and be confident
- Build your value and status
- Be bold in your behavior
- Make a good first impression
- Focus on your physique, clothes and style
- Maintain a confident, playful attitude
- Avoid needy, desperate behavior
- Don’t be too responsive and available
Imagine for a moment that an unattractive, nervous man walks up to a woman and says: “Hi, how are you?” almost stumbling over his words.
The woman looks at the man and without uttering a single word in response walks off, leaving the man feeling dejected and worthless.
The next day, an attractive, confident man walks up to the same woman and says the exact same words: “Hi, how are you?”
The woman looks at the man and smiles: “I’m good, how about you?” This is the difference between impressing a girl and turning her off.
The unattractive man has low value (SMV), while the attractive, confident man has high value.
Why are successful actors and professional athletes so attractive to women? Because their celebrity status automatically confers high-value. They have near unlimited options with women. They are wealthy, successful, and (sometimes, but not always) talented.
In other words, they know how to impress a girl.
You don’t have to be a celebrity, however, to impress a girl, but you do have to increase your value.
Girls Are Impressed by Value
When a woman rejects a man because he’s overweight, is she rejecting him because she’s a shallow, superficial person or is there another more profound explanation? The truth is, the overweight man gets rejected because his excess body fat sends the message that he doesn’t respect himself. Any man who allows himself to become overweight and unattractive obviously doesn’t care about his appearance and won’t impress a girl.
Second, excess body fat indicates a lack of drive and poor self-control. An overweight body is an indicator of general laziness and a lack of ambition.
Most attractive women won’t consider dating an overweight man unless the man is highly skilled, talented, or wealthy.
While it might be tempting, at this point, to label women superficial and shallow for behaving this way, it must be noted that just because a behavior appears superficial doesn’t mean that behavior serves no purpose.
As with all human behavior, there’s often more going on beneath the surface than first meets the eye. For example, developing your body is the superficial development of muscle.
Dig deeper, however, and you’ll soon discover that improving your physique sends a much more powerful message. The man with a good physique is telling the world he’s strong, healthy, has good genes, self-respect, ambition, focus, and persistence.
Growing your facial hair, again, might at first appear superficial, but in reality, facial hair communicates masculinity, health, and the presence of testosterone.
A smell might offer little more than a pleasant aroma, but as you now know, scents and fragrances communicate much more than the superficial.
The right scent signals cleanliness, good grooming, social intelligence, health, testosterone, and masculinity.
And as for clothes, isn’t all that focus on fashion superficial and feminine? We now know that the benefits of being well-dressed extend far beyond the superficial. Stylish clothes project power, influence, social intelligence, style, glamor, and socialization.
Women Want High-Value Men
As you raise your value, you increase the likelihood that women will find you attractive and be impressed by you. At a rudimentary level, low value leads to fewer dating options, and high value leads to increased dating options. Women of childbearing age are looking for men they can reproduce with and thus give birth to strong, healthy offspring.
From a woman’s perspective, the supply of high-value men is severely limited. As men, we are all the same, yet we are all different. We all experience the same emotions and have the same desires.
We all want intimacy, love, affection, security, happiness, excitement, and adventure. We all experience loss, sorrow, despair, defeat, and uncertainty. These are the similarities that bind us together, regardless of race, age, and ethnicity.
At the same time, we are all different. We all have different levels of education, wealth, physical ability, risk tolerance, drive, ambition, confidence, and opportunity. These are just some of the differences that separate the high-value man from the low-value man.
The low-value (beta male) is all too common. He’s the majority, not the exception. In a world where it’s easier to follow others than to take control of your life, the low-value man prevails.
If you want to impress a girl, you must focus on building your value. Focus on yourself and women will be drawn to you.
Lazy Men are Unimpressive
In a world where it’s easier to be sedentary than to workout, the low-value man is the norm. In a world where it’s easier to be lazy than to be ambitious, the low-value man thrives. A study into perceived attractiveness published in the journal Evolution and Human Behavior found that women rated men who were lazy and unambitious as less attractive and unimpressive.
When the supply of high-value men is limited, the demand for high-value men increases as a result. A high-value man is cherished, adored, respected, and desired. Unfortunately, the reality is that not every man can be high-value. This is one of the brutal truths of attraction.
Most men stumble through life taking the path of least resistance. They are happy to live in this state, as this state requires little effort or risk.
Most men seek shortcuts and instant gratification. If you want to impress a girl and stand out from other guys, you must act differently to other men.
Girls are Impressed by Confidence
One distinct difference that separates high-value men from low-value men is the high-value man’s propensity to take risks and invest more effort into life. This extra effort on the part of the high-value man is what separates him from lesser men. A man with high value continually strives to improve himself both physically and mentally.
This is how to truly impress a girl and stand out.
It’s a mistake to think women are only attracted to men who are successful. It’s precisely this kind of thinking that leads to the crippling “she’s out of my league” mentality.
Women aren’t just impressed by men who are successful and ambitious—women are attracted to men who show “unrealized potential.” A man who displays ambition, persistence, drive, energy, creativity, and a sense of purpose is more likely to be successful in the future.
In other words, you don’t have to be successful at this present moment in time to impress a girl; you just have to create the perception that you have what it takes to be successful in the future. Whether or not you become successful is beside the point.
Stand Out from Other Guys
Most men can only dream—they dream of getting the perfect girl, the perfect house, the perfect job, all the while falling short of realizing their full potential. The fundamental laws of physics dictate that you must take action to influence the world around you. What you think is of little consequence unless you have the ability to turn your thoughts into actions.
The world of thoughts and emotions is a woman’s world, a world that’s ever-changing and uncertain. The world of men is a world of action.
Men who take action have something that women crave—stability, strength, and purpose. If you want to impress a girl, you have to be bold, confident and take risks.
You must take risks and be bold to create a life worth living.
Take a moment to imagine yourself sitting in a chair at the end of your life. You are now an old man whose best years are behind you.
As you sit in your chair, you think back on all the things you have achieved in your life.
You think of all the women you knew and all your friends. You look back on your career and wonder what you might have done differently if you had the chance to live your life all over again.
You reflect on all your best and worst memories. After all, memories are your best friend these days.
You think back to the endless hours you spent working in a job that you hated. All the wasted time spent arguing over money and issues that, in retrospect, had little bearing on your life.
You wonder why you didn’t just go out into the world and travel more. There were so many places you wanted to see that you never had a chance to visit. You thought about what might have been had things been different. What might have happened if you’d had the courage just to quit your job and take a couple of risks in life, maybe start your own business…
And what about all the women you’d met that you were too afraid to pursue because you feared rejection and believed that you were unworthy of their love? You didn’t think you had what it takes to impress a girl. Man, if you could only go back in time and have a second chance. But you can’t.
Things could have been so different if only you’d had the courage to go after what you’d wanted. It’s a painful realization and a bitter pill to swallow.
As you read this, try to imagine yourself looking back on your life.
Do you want to be a man who has lived a life full of regret or do you want to be a man who can looks back on his life with a sense of pride and accomplishment—knowing that you gave life your best shot and made the most of every opportunity.
Impress a Girl with Courage
When you look back on your life, it is risks and moments of courage that define you and make you stand out from other men. It is these moments of risk and courage that impress a girl the most. It is the moment you had the courage to walk out of a job that you hated. It is the moment you started to believe in yourself and pursue your dreams even though you were scared to death.
It is the moment you had the courage to go up to a woman you found attractive and believe that you were good enough to talk to her and ask for her number.
It is this boldness and assertiveness that women notice. If you have the confidence to push for intimacy you will stand out in a woman’s mind and impress her.
You will turn the switch ON in her mind and she won’t be able to stop thinking about you.
Where most men are placid and afraid to make a move, you’re different.
You shocked her when you touched her and then you tried to kiss her. She didn’t expect that and she pulled away from you, but now she can’t stop thinking about you.
This is what life is all about. And at the end of the day, even if things don’t work out exactly as you had planned, you will be able to look back on your life with a sense of pride.
You took risks when others played it safe. You were different to other men. It is this attitude that women find most attractive and impressive.
You shot for the stars and reached the moon… it’s more than most can say.
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