It doesn’t matter how attractive your online profile is, if a woman isn’t attracted to you, there’s nothing you can do to build attraction or get her interested in you. This is why it’s so important to avoid crucial online dating mistakes.
One of the main advantages of online dating is that it allows men to connect with hundreds of women in a relatively short space of time. At no other time in history has it been easier to connect with so many women so quickly.
A man with low self-esteem and almost no confidence can now interact with more women in a single week than Casanova could expect to meet in his entire life. Having unlimited access to women, however, doesn’t make the seduction process any easier.
Before the birth of the Internet, a man had to go out and seduce women face-to-face. He either failed in this endeavor or succeeded. In previous generations, if you wanted to meet a woman and become intimate with her, you had to summon a degree of courage to make this happen.
The Internet erases the initial fear and anxiety that comes with meeting women for the first time. After all, how scary is it to talk to someone online? And how scary is it to talk to someone who’s made it abundantly clear that they too are also looking for romance and intimacy?
Despite this, you mustn’t be lulled into thinking that online dating is a problem free zone. There are, as you’re about to discover, many problems to overcome when it comes to online dating and many online dating mistakes to avoid.
It’s Harder to Build Attraction Online
When you meet women online, you bypass an important part of the seduction process—the direct approach, a chance to display confidence and strength. As a result, anytime you meet a woman online, a woman is going to have lower levels of attraction for you than she would have if she had met you in person as one question remains to be answered: are you capable of seducing her without the help of the Internet? And are you able to avoid key online dating mistakes? To answer these questions, a woman will undoubtedly test you to get a true measure of your strength.
In the world of online dating, you’re judged first and foremost by your appearance. If you’re to have any success developing attraction online, you must first learn to cultivate an attractive image. You can achieve this by posting pictures that portray you in a strong, positive light.
Indeed, first impressions are so powerful, research published in the Personality & Social Psychology Bulletin discovered that people can accurately predict the personality of people they see for the first time, even in photographs.
Qualities like extraversion, self-esteem, confidence, health, and emotional stability can all be judged accurately simply by looking at a person.
Case Study: Online Dating Mistake #1
Vanessa broke up with her ex around six months ago, and only now, after going through a lot of emotional turmoil, did she feel ready to dip her toes into the water and start dating again. Her friends were all dating men they’d met online, and Vanessa thought the Internet would be a good place to start. That was how she met Carl.
After being online for only a couple of days, Vanessa saw Carl’s profile and was instantly impressed. Carl looked confident and sophisticated. And when they got around to chatting online, Vanessa found him easy to talk to.
When Vanessa met Carl in person, however, she was instantly disappointed. Where was the confident man she had met online? In the flesh, Carl was neither funny nor charming. He was clearly out of shape, something his profile pictures did well to conceal, and his elegant turn of phrase had been replaced by the rambling stutter of a man who was insecure around women.
Even though Vanessa was attracted to Carl online, her impression of him now was nothing short of disappointing.
It doesn’t matter how attractive your online profile is and how well you communicate, if a woman isn’t attracted to you in person, there’s nothing you can do to redeem the situation.
Get Offline as Fast as Possible
One of the great perils of online dating is the speed with which a man and a woman can become intimate in such a short space of time; although this intimacy is often an illusion, as the woman soon discovers that the “online” version of the man is nothing like the “real” version. Even if you’re confident and attractive, there’s still another problem that must be overcome.
When you become intimate with a woman online without first meeting her in person, you unconsciously derail the seduction process. Men often lament how they “talked to a girl for hours” or how “they became so close online they both agreed not to meet and date other people.”
Unfortunately, theirs was a relationship built on nothing more than hope and illusion. It’s only when you sit down face-to-face that the real seduction begins.
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