If you want to get your girlfriend or your ex girlfriend to a place where she is madly in love with you, then she must first find you attractive.
In fact, the more attractive you are, the more your girlfriend will want to be with you, the more she’ll care about you and the more she’ll want to have sex with you.
It’s an unfortunate truth that if your girlfriend isn’t that into you, then she most likely doesn’t find you that attractive at the moment. However, the good news is that with the right guidance this is something that is easy to change.
Not only is this true, but by using the 8 tips outlined in this guide, you will become so attractive to your girlfriend and women in general, that this information has the potential to change your life in ways you never dreamed possible. As they say, subtle changes can lead to big results!
This post will show you how to make yourself as attractive as possible as fast as possible. With the help of modern science we now know what triggers attraction in women and this gives us an instant shortcut to becoming incredibly attractive as men.
This post is a magic pill for all men looking to become instantly more attractive and successful with any woman they want to bring into their life.
This information is incredibly powerful and effective and it has the potential to change your life in ways you can’t even begin to imagine.
If you are able to implement all of the strategies in this post into your life, be prepared for incredible results and dramatic change.
With that said, let’s take a look at 8 of the most effective ways to become instantly more attractive to women and the world around you.
#1 – Wear Red
Research conducted at the University of Rochester found that red is the most attractive color that a man can wear.
“We found that women view men in red as higher in status, more likely to make money and more likely to climb the social ladder,” said Andrew Elliot, professor of psychology at the University of Rochester. ” And it’s this high-status judgment that leads to the attraction.”
In another study conducted in 2010, women from the US, England, Germany and China were found to be most attracted to men who wore the color red.
If you want to make an instant impression as a man and raise your attractiveness, then wearing the color red can dramatically improve your sex appeal and attractiveness.
#2 – Be A Challenge
No woman respects and is attracted to a man who is to easy to get.
Women love a challenge and if you want your girlfriend to find you incredibly attractive and you want her to appreciate you then you need to be a challenge.
An excellent study found that women are most attracted to men that they have to win over and who are not easy to get together with (Journal of Experimental Social Psychology).
Keep this research in mind when dealing with your girlfriend.
Being a challenge means not always being available for dates, for phone calls and chats. It also means being difficult to always see and not being available all the time.
I once had a client of mine who’s girlfriend found him very attractive in the beginning. Unfortunately, this guy was always available for his girlfriend and he was always wanting to see her. This turned his girlfriend off and she ended up pushing him away. It was only when he started being more of a challenge that his girlfriend found him attractive again.
#3 – Be Hard To Get
It’s been found that if you’re less available as a man and less responsive then a woman will find you much more attractive. You will also be seen as a much more romantic prospect (European Journal of Personality).
Why are women more attracted to men who are hard to get and less responsive?
Professor Gurit Birnbaum of the Interdisciplinary Centre, Israel, says: “Women may perceive a responsive stranger as less desirable for different reasons. Women may perceive this person as inappropriately nice and manipulative, in that trying to obtain sexual favors, or eager to please, perhaps even as desperate, and therefore less sexually appealing.”
It’s also true that women may perceive a responsive man as vulnerable and less dominant.
I can verify that in all my interactions with men and women as a relationship psychologist, I have found that men who are less responsive and “hard to get” are much more successful with women.
These men are able to attract their girlfriends and keep them attracted as long as they want.
I rarely see a woman lose interest in her boyfriend when he is less responsive and hard to get. It is the man that is always available and there for his girlfriend that always loses his girlfriend in the long-run.
#4 – Don’t Smile Too Much
Despite what society and culture will tell you, smiling too much at your girlfriend and women in general can actually turn them off.
But this has to be done the right way. Here’s what this study really means.
Look around you at coffee shops and restaurants.
A lot of men when they talk to a woman for the first time have these big fake smiles plastered across their faces.
This is a big mistake. It’s insincere and a shallow attempt at looking friendly which doesn’t impress a woman.
Instead, when you first meet a woman if you want her to find you attractive, don’t smile! Then, only after you have got to know the woman a little better should you reward her with a smile.
This will communicate to a woman that your smile is special and that you don’t give it away too easily.
Once you eventually smile to a woman you like, after first being indifferent to her presence, she will find you much more attractive than every other man that beams a smile at her straight away.
5# – Smell
Who would have thought that wearing the right smell could have such an amazing effect on a woman?
This is one of the true magic pills of attraction.
Scientists recently discovered that a compound found in a small group of men’s fragrances actually activates the pheromone receptors in a woman’s brain and makes her more attracted to a man.
This compound is called hedione, and it was first used in the Christian Dior fragrance Eau Sauvage.
Hedione is so effective because it stimulates the area of the brain in women that is responsible for the release of sex hormones.
Fragrances that contain hedione include:
Christian Dior’s Eau Sauvage
Acqua Di Gio
Paco Robane’s Invictus
Now here’s another incredible piece of research that you need to know about and that will show you why wearing a great fragrance can make you more attractive.
In 2009, a study was published in the International Journal of Cosmetic Science where researchers had two different groups of men. One group of men were sprayed with a fragrance and the other group of men didn’t have any fragrance sprayed on them at all.
The researchers then got women to observe the men on a silent video (so the women couldn’t smell the men at all).
The women were then asked to judge which men were the most attractive.
Now here’s the interesting part.
The women all picked out men who were wearing a scented fragrance to be more attractive (even though these women couldn’t smell the men).
The researchers believe that simply wearing a fragrance made men display more confident behavior, which in turn made them more attractive to women.
#6 – Confidence
Much more important than being a physically attractive person is being a person who projects true self-confidence (University of Oregon).
Remember, strength and confidence to a woman is what beauty is to a man.
Women aren’t looking for another beauty gene when they have sex with you, they’re looking for a strength and confidence gene.
So what is the best way for a man to project confidence?
The fastest route to confidence is to fake it until you make it. By this I mean if you want to become confident you have to think positive thoughts that will put you into a state of confidence. You have to act confident and then real confidence will follow as you start to see the results of your behavior.
For long term confidence to take hold it’s important to do positive things that contribute to your life and increase your sense of well-being and self-worth.
Working out, studying, starting a business and developing new skills and working on new projects are all ways to increase your level of confidence.
The same is true when interacting with women. When a man shows off in front of a woman and tries to act tough, a woman can see right through this and the man’s actions come across as insincere and insecure.
On the other hand, when a man is relaxed, happy and indifferent to outcomes in life, he comes across as secure and confidence within himself. This is the most attractive state a man can get himself into. This is one of the X factors of attraction and if you’re able to get yourself into a confident state of mind, you will become irresistible to your girlfriend.
It’s also important to note that women are more attracted to men who act confident and sure of themselves as opposed to men who act humble and indecisive.
Research at the University of Queensland found that a little overconfidence can actually be very attractive. “People tend to think of overconfidence as an unappealing quality,” The researchers said. “But our work indicates that confidence is such a powerful signal that a little overconfidence can actually be helpful.”
Dressing well, just like maintaining good grooming habits, also makes us feel fresh and confident. We feel better about ourselves and we also think smarter and act in a more confident manner (this has been backed up by research published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology).
#7 – Workout
If there’s one tip I would give every man it is to workout.
The mental and physical benefits are not only incredible, but the fact that women will find you more attractive if you workout is a great advantage too. A study conducted at UCLA asked 286 women to rate men in terms of physical attractiveness.
It was found by researchers that women were most attracted to men who worked out and and some muscle tone and definition.
It’s important to note that women weren’t turned on by men who had too many muscles as this was seen by the majority of women as freakish and off-putting, but being in shape and being toned was seen as the most desirable body shape.
According to the studies authors, “Sexual characteristics like muscularity are cues of genes that increase offspring viability or reproductive success.”
If you want your girlfriend (and all women for that matter) to find you incredible attractive and sexy, it’s time to hit the gym and get into shape.
I saw evidence of the power of working out myself firsthand, when I was dealing with a client of mine who was severely overweight.
After losing the pounds and adding some nice definition to his muscles after hitting the gym for a solid three months, my client noted that his new girlfriend was unable to keep her hands off his body, something he had never experienced before.
He also found that people smiled at him more and both women and men showed him more respect. This increased his confidence tremendously and allowed him to date more women than he’d ever had before in his life.
For better or worse, human beings judge people on a surface level and if you look good and you’re in great shape then people will instinctively respect you. This is the reality of human nature. And if you ignore reality it’s at your own peril!
#8 – GROW STUBBLE
Research at the University of New South Wales found that women are much more attracted to men with stubble compared to men who are clean-shaven or guys with a full beard.
In their research, the University of New South Wales professors showed different photos of men to 351 women.
The men in the photos either had a clean shaven face, stubble or a beard.
It was found that men who had stubble (5-10 days of growth) were the most attractive men across the board. Just like wearing red and using the right scent, growing some facial hair is one of the fastest and easiest ways to become instantly more attractive to your girlfriend.