Becoming more attractive to your girlfriend is one of the most effective ways to get her back and keep her. This article will tell you everything you need to know to get your girlfriend attracted to you and to keep her attracted to you.
I just finished a consultation with a client who broke up with his girlfriend because she lost attraction for him. He’s been kind enough to allow me to share this email with you guys…
I’m in a difficult situation. My girlfriend who I love more than anything in the world has just left me. The reason she says she left me is because she doesn’t find me attractive anymore (Ouch!).
This has been obvious for a long time. She never wants to have intimacy with me and lost interest in that early on in our relationship. We’ve been seeing each other for 9 months in total.
She didn’t say why she didn’t want to make love to me, but she just wasn’t turned on at all (this is an unacceptable situation. A man should never accept this kind of manipulation and rejection from a woman. In my eyes, withholding intimacy is a deal breaker in any relationship).
She stopped showing affection altogether. About a month before she left me, we both went to a party and got pretty drunk. When we got home we had a blazing argument. I told her to just tell me everything she was unhappy with in our relationship. Big mistake.
She said that she didn’t find me physically attractive and that she was actually turned off by me (In her moment of intoxication the truth slips out. It hurts like hell but this can be a serious opportunity for you to grow here).
This was like a kick in the guts. I yelled back, “then why the f@#k are you still with me?” And she just said she made a big mistake. Ever since that night things have just gone from bad to worse. Chris, I need your help. Is there anything I can do to get this girl back and make myself more attractive in her eyes?
(It hurts a lot when the person we love and find attractive tells us that we aren’t attractive in their eyes. It’s a painful rejection. Fortunately for you, however, you can change this and get your ex girlfriend to be attracted to you again. I saw this reader’s picture and he’s actually a good looking guy. He’s very skinny and his clothes were really loose fitting. So in this reader’s case, I actually suggested the best thing a he could do to make himself instantly mores attractive is to workout and eat right. More details below…)
How to Become Attractive to your Girlfriend
Imagine that you’re standing in a room full of people. One is a super talented musician. Another is a rich, successful businessman. Another is a famous writer. And then there is the guy who is well-dressed and has a great physique. Who do you think will look more attractive and have more magnetic appeal?
It’s not rocket science. The guy who works out and dresses well will always have the initial advantage. This effect is not only felt by men but by women too. Something in our human DNA draws us towards people who are strong and healthy.
A strong healthy body, wrapped in good looking clothes is still, as superficial as it might seem, the fastest attractor out there. But there is something else that is even more powerful—that is, a man’s confidence.
A Confident Man Is Irresistible to Women
A lot of guys who are trying to get their ex back complain that they don’t feel attractive and confident around women. They feel lucky to have a girl in their life and when their girlfriend leaves them, they feel as if they will never be able to meet anyone like her ever again.
Here’s the problem. The man is selling himself short. So what’s the best way for a man to develop confidence and how can you become more attractive to your girlfriend?
Unfortunately, there is no magic potion or wonder drug that can give a man instant confidence. A man develops real confidence over time, through mastering a variety of skills in life and overcoming challenges. But there is one hack that can help you immediately develop more confidence…
Fake It Till You Make It
Like I said, confidence can’t be acquired instantly, but it is possible to act confident and thus feel more confident.
One of the best and most effective treatments for developing confidence is for a man to do three things. These are:
1) Start working out and eating healthy.
2) Wear good looking, attractive clothes.
3) Maintain good grooming by taking care of your appearance before you leave the house each day.
I can’t tell you what a positive effect doing these three things has had on my own life. I even had one girlfriend tell me that I should stop working out and dress down because there were too many women showing interest in me (she didn’t like this at all and it drove her crazy that I would get all this attention from different women. She knew the root cause of the problem and she wanted me to look more unattractive to other women so she didn’t feel threatened).
So in this post, I’m going to give you a run down on the best way to implement these three areas into you life. But before I do that, it’s important to explain why you should consider doing this.
Working out, eating healthy, dressing well, and good grooming all make a man look better and more attractive. But it runs deeper than this…
Implementing these three areas into your daily life will make you feel more confident. You’re putting the focus back on yourself and you’re showing your ex girlfriend and all the other women out there that you care about yourself and you have value. Displaying value is incredibly attractive to women.
People Care About People Who Care About Themselves
After working out and eating healthy for just one month you’ll see tremendous changes in your body. It’s literally possible to triple your strength in just one month! Can you imagine what this will do for your confidence?
Your body will start to transform, you’ll burn fat, increase muscle mass and start to look physically more attractive. Not only that, but working out releases important chemicals in the brain that relieve stress and make us feel more positive—all this makes us feel much more confident in ourselves and our appearance.
Dressing well, just like maintaining good grooming habits, makes us feel fresh and confident. You’ll feel better about yourself and you’ll also think smarter and act in a more confident manner (this has been backed up by research published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology).
When dressing well, you want to wear clothes that fit you well. They shouldn’t be old and worn, and definitely shouldn’t be too loose and baggy (think what would James Bond wear?).
If you want to feel and act more confident (the most attractive trait that women look for in men), then implementing and maintaining these three areas of your life (working out and eating right, dressing well and grooming) is the fastest route to positive change out there. Implement these strategies and it won’t be long before you become a lot more attractive to your girlfriend.