Here are the 10 biggest reasons why your girlfriend will leave you and how you can avoid them at all costs! If you’re in a relationship with your girlfriend then there’s a good chance that at some point in time you’ll make a relationship mistake.
Now it’s okay to make mistakes in a relationship, however, the ten mistakes I’m going to list below have the potential to destroy a relationship.
These 10 mistakes can be classified as major relationship mistakes because they can do so much damage.
That’s why it’s so important to read through this article and understand exactly what major relationship mistakes you should avoid if you want to keep everything smooth with your girlfriend.
I’ve met a lot of guys who’ve made these mistakes in their life and have ended up losing their girlfriend because they didn’t know how to avoid these mistakes effectively.
1. Being Weak And Wishy Washy
There’s a good chance that when you first met your girlfriend she saw you as a masculine man who was strong and confident (this might be a fantasy she created because she didn’t really know you yet, or you were able to project more confidence in the beginning).
However, over time there’s a strong possibility that you started to get complacent and comfortable with your girlfriend.
You might have started to let your girlfriend make decisions for you. You might also have started to project more uncertainty about your future and the direction your life is going.
Your girlfriend, being a woman full of feminine energy, needs to be around a masculine man who is strong and confident and certain.
If you start projecting uncertainty, weakness and fear around your girlfriend then she’s going to feel drained and worn out by you very quickly. Not only that, she’s going to feel repulsed and turned off by your display of uncertainty and weakness (which is the same as projecting feminine energy).
It’s okay to be down for a little while (a couple of weeks or a month), but if you’re constantly projecting uncertainty and an inability to make decisions, then your girlfriend will rapidly start to lose interest in you and find you less and less attractive until one day she up and leaves you.
2. Letting Her Lose Respect For You
I could kick things off and say that losing respect for your girlfriend is a major relationship problem. But ultimately, that is her problem not yours. And if a man loses respect for his girlfriend then he’s going to probably leave her anyway.
One major problem that a man can face is when his girlfriend loses respect for him. There are lots of reasons why a girl will lose respect for a man:
The man is weak and needy
The man has no goal and direction in life
The man lacks confidence
The man can’t make decisions
The man is untrustworthy
The man makes foolish decisions
When you’re dating a girl you want to avoid making these mistakes as often as possible.
Respect is one of the most important things in a relationship. And without respect your girlfriend won’t want to stay with you and eventually she’ll start looking to end the relationship.
3. Forgetting To Date Her
This mistake is one of the most common relationship mistakes that men make when trying to maintain a relationship.
Whenever you find yourself getting lazy and not dating your girlfriend properly then you’re heading into dangerous territory.
A lot of men assume that as soon as they’ve had sex with their girlfriend that their job is now done. All the hard work is out the way. They can now kick back and relax.
Nothing could be further from the truth.
Dating a woman, especially a good quality woman, takes a fair amount of work.
Now I completely sympathize with guys here.
We’re not wired the same way as women. We don’t naturally enjoy dating all the time, going out to the park, to different restaurants, and doing little day trips together.
It can be fun in small doses, but it does get tiring, especially as women often need this to feel loved and appreciated.
Men are hard-wired to pursue their goals and focus on their career. And just as having no dates and constant sex is emotionally draining for a woman; dating all the time with limited amounts of sex is draining and exhausting for a man too.
That’s why it’s often said that men come to a relationship looking for sex and find love; and women come looking for love and find sex.
The aim in any good relationship is to find a happy balance between romance and sex.
4. Getting Jealous
Jealousy is a major problem in a relationship and if left untreated it has the potential to do more damage than just destroy a relationship.
My cousin, who works as a detective, once told me that when there is a murder the first thing the police check is the relationship and money situations of the victims and suspects.
Money and relationships being the main motivations for murder. But it’s jealousy in the relationship that is the real cause of murder.
The boyfriend gets jealous of his girlfriend talking to other men, flirting with other men, or even getting close to another man, and the next thing you know you things have gotten out of control.
Now most problems related to jealousy don’t end in murder; however, it’s not uncommon for jealousy to tear a relationship apart.
If you’re starting to get jealous of your girlfriend the best and only advice I can give you is to let it go. Know that jealousy is just a temporary emotion and that it will usually pass after a good nights sleep.
Also, if you’re feeling jealous of your girlfriend for some reason, you don’t want to start displaying this as women will pick up on this and see you as being weak and insecure. This will make her even less attracted to you and cause even more problems in your relationship.
Remember to keep your jealousy in check and don’t let it come out in a violent rage or emotional outburst, both of which only make you appear insecure.
Try to laugh things off and if you can “agree & amplify” or simply look bored to neutralize the situation that’s all the better.
For example, if a girl says that some guy is really good looking and it bothers you (women say this all too often and it does irritate the shit out of men, not because it’s not true, but because it shows disrespect to the man she’s with).
However, you only have a couple of options here:
You can agree with your girlfriend and just say “Wow!” or you can choose to look disinterested and stifle a yawn, or if you’re feeling particularly pissed off or irritated don’t be afraid to say something like, “What are you telling me for?” (Make sure to smile lightly when you say this otherwise it will appear overly aggressive.)
All of these responses will show your girlfriend that you don’t really give a shit about what she’s saying and will also make her comment appear stupid and pointless.
It will also help to neutralize any jealous feelings you might be experiencing.
5. Being Too Mushy
Falling is love is a wonderful feeling. You want to share all your feelings of affection and tenderness with your girlfriend and decide that you’re not going to hold back.
You make sure that you tell your girlfriend how much you love her as often as you can. You tell her how beautiful she is all the time. And you call her “honey” and “angel” and other pet names whenever you can.
If you find yourself doing this all the time, check yourself. When you’re actually saying these mushy things to your girlfriend all the time you’re probably not conscious of how bad it actually sounds.
But try watching some other guy say these things to their girlfriend and you might find yourself cringing. Well, after a while your girlfriend is going to cringe too.
Being overly mushy is a sure way to kill your girlfriend’s attraction for you and lose her interest.
When it comes to compliments and sweet words, less is more.
6. She Doesn’t Trust You
In the beginning of the relationship it’s not really that important if your girlfriend trusts you or not.
Simply being around her and showing her a good time is enough for most women in the early stages of a relationship.
However, as a relationship gets more serious and a woman’s attachment for you grows, her need for trust will also grow.
If your girlfriend wants to be in a serious relationship, then she’s going to want to be able to trust you enough to be able to open up and be with you.
However, some guys make the mistake of killing the trust in the relationship by being insincere, constantly lying, and cheating on their girlfriends.
Women, being the intuitive creatures that they are, are very good at sniffing out all forms of deception. And if a woman suspects that she can’t trust you it’s going to open up a Pandaro’s Box that can potentially destroy the relationship.
When you lose your girlfriend’s trust it takes a lot of work and time to get it back. Guys have to be very careful here if they genuinely want to keep their girlfriend around for a long-term relationship.
This is a big problem in any relationship. However, a lot of men can’t help themselves and a lot of the time men will cheat even when they love their girlfriends.
Something that a lot of women don’t understand is that men can quite easily separate love and sex, whereas it’s much harder for a woman to do this.
If you’re an attractive man, and especially if you have a girlfriend, other women are going to find you attractive too. You’re going to get opportunities to stray and cheat on your girlfriend, just like your girlfriend will get opportunities too.
Before you even consider cheating, think about this: can you live with the consequences if she finds out?
If you’re not willing to lose your girlfriend don’t take the risk. Don’t cheat on her and don’t risk losing her trust and faith in you.
Yes, it’s true that most women will forgive a man if he cheats on her, but this is only if he doesn’t try to be deceptive about his actions. It’s the deception that is more hurtful to women than the actual cheating itself.
8. You Have No Passion And Goals
This essentially means that your masculine energy isn’t flowing in the right direction.
Anytime you lack goals or ambition then your girlfriend is going to start to lose interest in you and be repulsed by your lack of masculine energy (this isn’t a choice on her part, but rather something that has been built into her by mother nature).
Goals and ambition aren’t for every man and I appreciate that, but the fact remains: when you’re dating high quality women, these women will usually expect a lot more from a man, and want their man to be going places.
A lack of drive on a man’s part projects uncertainty and insecurity and trips a woman’s internal alarm system. And once this alarm starts ringing your girlfriend is going to test you more and want to see an improvement in your behavior.
If a positive change isn’t forthcoming, then your girlfriend will eventually leave you.
9. Not Resolving Tension
Unresolved tension can come out of nowhere. One minute everything’s running along nice and smooth, then suddenly out of nowhere there’s tension.
This tension can be caused by an innocent comment or even a small argument that escalates into something more.
I have a good friend who was married to his wife for three years. One day they had an argument. The wife went and slept on the couch. In the morning, he didn’t say anything to her and she didn’t say anything to him.
The tension increased…
The next day she slept in another room. In the morning he didn’t say anything to her and she didn’t say anything to him.
The tension increased even more…
The next day the exact same thing happened. Until the wife ended up sleeping in a separate room for three months and they eventually got divorced.
When I asked my friend why he didn’t say something to kill the tension, he looked puzzled and said he didn’t know why. He figured that it was a matter of pride and that she should have apologized first.
She was probably thinking the exact same thing.
If you let tension escalate between yourself and your girlfriend you run the risk of losing her forever. Put small problems to sleep and kill the tension between you before you go to bed.
Don’t be afraid to talk about things with your girlfriend and be open with her. Express your feelings and let her know that you don’t hold anything against her.
10. Staying With The Wrong Person
You know when it’s wrong. You feel it in your heart and soul. There’s a lack of commitment on your part and a certainty that at some point things will end. It’s only a matter of time.
When you instinctively know this but choose to stay with the wrong person out of convenience or because you’ve got nothing better to do, then you’re selling yourself short and not allowing yourself the time and energy (this is the important part) to go out and find a person who is a better fit for you in the long-run.
Far too many guys fall into this trip and expect things to turn out okay.
Guys will even date women who are narcissists, bi-polar and dysfunctional all because they’re able to get a temporary dose of sex and affection (and the crazy types are often wild in bed, it’s true), but this is a trap that can lead to serious problems and repercussions later on.
If you’re dating a girl who is a little crazy, or you just feel “meh” about, then the best thing to do is to get out of the relationship as fast as possible.
Unless you really must have the experience, in which case I wish you luck, having been down this road before and witnessed attempted suicide attempts, death threats and slander, all I can say is, “watch your back” if you’re dating one of the crazy ones, and be kind to a girl who loves you when you know you can’t return her love.
It might be difficult to live without the company, the sex and the drama for a while, but this will give you more motivation to go out and meet a girl who you find more attractive and who you actually enjoy being around.
There’s nothing as wonderful as making love to a woman and actually wanting her to stick around afterwards. This is when you know you’ve got a keeper.