How To Overcome A Scarcity Mentality When Dating

How To Overcome A Scarcity Mentality When Dating

A reader recently contacted me and wanted to know how to overcome a scarcity mentality when dating. He also wanted to know how to create an abundance mindset. In this article, I’ll show you how to do this.

Chris – I purchased your ExGirlfriend program and am very impressed with the product. I wanted your insight into developing more of an abundance mindset with women/dating in general and overcoming a fear or scarcity.

I’ve been hung up on my young hot ex girl for like 6 months now and briefly engaged her again for sex in May. However she’s since been avoiding me likely b/c I pursued too much and held a scarcity mindset thinking she was the “one”.

I would be open for an email consultation with you, let me know what you think. cheers!


In order to develop an abundance mentality you have to actually start to create abundance in your life. This means that you have to start acting in an abundant way by dating more women and creating more options for yourself.

Overcome Dating Scarcity With True Confidence

girlfriend-wants-you-to-have-freedomThe same goes for things like confidence. It’s impossible to think our way into true confidence, we actually have to start taking small actions in our life that will make us more confident on a daily basis.

For example, going to the gym, doing martial arts, mastering a hobby, dating more women, improving our education or business prospects are all things that will collectively raise our confidence as a man. Not just one thing, but many small things over a period of time. This is called self actualization in psychology.

You will also start to see yourself differently too as you grow and develop. The more you respect yourself and see yourself as an impressive person, the more other people, women included, will respect you and value you too (Confucius).

Abundance Creates More Abundance

The great thing about abundance is that it creates more and more abundance. Once you start to see women as abundant and see that possibilities for relationships are everywhere, then you will grow more in confidence. And when you have other options and women who desire you, then you will never fall into the trap of thinking that one girl is the “one”.

The reality is that the “one” myth is simply stupid. Men are giving women value based on nothing but their looks and some perceived idea of how she will be in the future. Most women aren’t actually that impressive if you take away their looks. It’s a harsh truth of life. It’s also a truth that women understand this fact and are aware that their value is based on nothing more than their looks. That is why they are so turned off by men who put them on a pedestal for no reason.

How To Create An Abundance Mentality

To achieve true abundance in life I recommend the following steps:

  • Get yourself into great physical shape (this helps to attract more women and convert more dating prospects).
  • Have goals or projects in your life that you are working on. This will make women see you as a more valuable man.
  • Start approaching and talking to more women in daily life. Forget night clubs and bar pickup. Instead focus on day to day interactions which have a higher chance of conversion.
  • Start online dating (Tinder etc.). This will get you more interest off women and more options, and you will see that there are other women out there who are very interested in you, not just your current love interest.
  • Move to a city. It’s a simple fact. More women live in cities. If you don’t already live in a city then your options for dating and abundance are limited.

These are some great ways to start creating options in your life and greater abundance. Of course a crucial rule applies here, that is: in order to have great abundance and options in life, you have to also be a person that embraces opportunity and be a high value man to attract more women and opportunities.

I hope this helps to get you started. I’m very happy that you have decided to take this path in life by taking the first step and reading this.