This article will show you how to build attraction with women. Building attraction is like building a house. If you want to build a house that’s impervious to damage, you must lay the right foundations first.
In the beginning, boy meets girl; boy courts girl; boy and girl have sex. This is the natural flow of the seduction process. At any point in time, however, the seduction process can be derailed, leading to the death of attraction and a failure to become intimate.
If you take a moment to analyze the seduction process in more detail, you’ll discover that the seduction process can be broken down into two distinct stages: “first contact” and “the chase.”
Stage One: First Contact
At a basic level, the natural seduction process is easy to follow. All you have to do is meet a woman you like, build attraction, then consummate the relationship. It should be noted, however, that just because you get a woman’s number doesn’t mean the seduction will move forward without resistance; instead, getting a woman’s number simply allows you to test the waters and see if she’s open to being seduced.
The moment you establish contact with a woman is the moment you get a sense of where she’s at and whether or not she finds you attractive. This is the point where you begin to feel a woman out and get a sense of her baseline rate of attraction.
Keep in mind, not all women are going to feel the same way about you right from the start. As the saying goes: 30 percent will love you, 30 percent will like you, and 30 percent will be indifferent towards you.
Stage Two: The Chase
The second stage of the seduction process, which is all about building attraction and elevating a woman’s desire for you is the most crucial stage of the seduction process. This is the stage where most relationship problems arise and the point where most women pull away and go cold for no apparent reason. It’s at this stage that attraction either thrives or dies.
At this stage of the seduction process, you’re attempting to seduce a woman and build attraction, and she’s deciding whether or not she’s going to allow you to seduce her or not.
At the beginning of the relationship, the man usually pursues the woman. This is the natural way of things, and you must ensure you strike a delicate balance between pursuing too much and showing just the right amount of desire.
You must be proactive and bold without appearing desperate. By this stage, if everything goes well the woman will start to warm up to you.
Once you sense a change in her behavior and notice that the woman is becoming more responsive, you must back off and allow her to chase to you.
Build Attraction the Right Way
One of the biggest mistakes men make is to come across as overly desperate in the early stages of the relationship, bombarding women with messages and phone calls as they try to chase the woman into commitment. Men who do this are fearful that if they wait too long, another man will swoop in and steal the woman away.
These men often roll out the same tired, old phrases: “I’ve never felt this way about a girl before” and “I think I might be falling in love with you” followed by the inevitable “When are you free? Anytime is good for me.” And while these emotional expressions might appear romantic on the surface, all they really do is communicate weakness and desperation.
Building attraction is like building a house. If you want to build a house that’s strong and stable, you must first lay the right foundations.