If your girlfriend has started losing interest in you, then you need to understand why this happens and what you can do to fix this problem before your girlfriend breaks up with you.
This article will show you:
- Why women lose interest in men.
- Why this is bad news and why you need to be careful.
- What you can do to turn this situation around and get her interested again.
If you handle this situation the right way, you’ll be able to get your girlfriend back with even more interest; however, if you mess up and do something wrong, you run the risk of losing your girlfriend forever because when your girlfriend loses interest in you this is one of the first signs that your girlfriend is looking to break up with you.
I recently got an email from a guy whose girlfriend has just started to lose interest in him:
I’ve noticed some changes in my girlfriend’s behavior recently that is pretty disturbing. I’d like to start by saying that we had an awesome relationship for the last 8 months, but recently she’s become more and more distant and I’m scared that she’s starting to lost interest in me.
My girlfriend used to always be messaging me and we would talk to each other all the time during the day. But over the last two weeks my girlfriend hasn’t been contacting me as much. I know it might seem like a small thing but I just feel like she’s starting to lose interest. This has happened before and I really don’t want to make the same mistake again.
I’ve sent her a message asking if she’s okay, but she didn’t respond until the next day. She says she’s been really busy and tired at work but I think she’s lying. I know there’s another guy at her work that really likes her and she says he is hot, so I’m thinking something might be going on between them.
This whole situation is driving me crazy!
Any advice on this would be extremely helpful.
Call it what you will, this girl is definitely pulling away or losing interest in this guy. He’s obviously made some mistakes in the past that cause women to lost interest in him and he’s repeating those mistakes again. This guy also seems to be over-pursuing and chasing his girlfriend way too much. This will turn any woman off and make her lose interest in the relationship.
If you notice that your girlfriend has started to lose interest in you, then you need to be able to read the signs and understand what is going on.
Why Your Girlfriend Will Lose Interest In You:
- She’s losing attraction for you.
- She’s upset or angry with you.
- She’s cheating on you.
- You keep failing her tests.
- She’s thinking about ending the relationship.
It’s never good when the girl that you want to be with suddenly starts losing interest in you, but if you keep your eyes open, you’ll see the signs that your girlfriend is actually pulling away from you and you’ll be able to do something about it before it’s too late.
Let’s take a look at one of the main reasons why your girlfriend will lose interest in you.
Your Girlfriend Is Losing Attraction For You
If your girlfriend was really into you before then that means she was very attracted to you initially (so there’s nothing wrong with your physical appearance). However, it’s possible for your girlfriend to lose attraction for you and become completely turned off by you over time.
This happens for a number of reasons. It could be that you’re acting in a weak and needy way. You might have been way too into her, putting her first (which will make your girlfriend believe that she’s higher value than you).
When it comes to dating women, attitude is everything. You can be broke with no job, but if you have the right attitude around women you’ll still be seen as an incredibly attractive man.
There’s also guys out there who start off wearing good clothes, they go to the gym and stay in shape, take care of their hygiene and take care of themselves. Then when these guys start dating their girlfriend, they let it all slide.
These guys stop taking care of their appearance, they don’t shower and they don’t go to the gym anymore. They essentially give up and stop making an effort.
Now if a girl is in love with you, she’ll forgive you for a lot of things, but she won’t forgive you if you stop making an effort and stop trying to date her.
Getting the girl doesn’t mean that all the hard work is over. If you want to keep your girlfriend, you have to make sure that you keep on doing what you were doing when you first met your girlfriend in the first place.
If you want your girlfriend to stay attracted to you so she doesn’t end up losing interest in you, then you need to maintain the right attitude (which is portraying strength and confidence). You also need to keep yourself in good physical shape, dress well and keep your hygiene in check too.
One friend I know was dating a beautiful girl who suddenly broke up with him. When this guy met her he was in the shape of his life. He was muscular and ripped. He also had a lot of drive and ambition. Fast forward five years and this girl ended up breaking up with my friend. Why did she do that?
Well, for one, my friend started over-eating and became seriously overweight, which was exactly the opposite of how he was when he met his girlfriend five years ago.
Now the reason my friend started eating so much is because he lost his ambition and hated the job he was working in. So he became miserable and depressed and started eating like crazy. And when you’re overweight and not in shape it shows that you don’t respect yourself anymore—and how do you expect your girlfriend to be attracted to you and respect you if you can’t even respect yourself?
Your Girlfriend Is Upset Or Angry With You
If your girlfriend is upset or angry it might seem like she is losing interest in you, but it’s not the same thing as actually losing interest—she is just expressing a temporary emotion.
A lot of women withdraw into themselves when they feel angry and upset with their partner. Now if you’ve done something to legitimately piss your girlfriend off, then you shouldn’t be surprised if she pulls away from you and wants her own space.
It is crucial that you let your girlfriend have space and that you don’t chase her away. Just because your girlfriend wants space it doesn’t mean that your girlfriend is losing interest in you.
Although, if you don’t resolve the problem between yourself and your girlfriend and she gets more angry and upset with you, then she’ll definitely lose interest in you.
The important thing to remember is that when your girlfriend is angry or upset with you and she pushes you away, then this might seem like a sign that she’s losing interest, but you should understand that it’s perfectly normal for your girlfriend to get upset sometimes—you can’t avoid it.
Just make sure you take the right steps to resolve any problems you have between yourself and your girlfriend.
The following scenario is based on a real life incident: Jane had been dating Peter for a couple of years. However, recently she found herself getting more and more upset with Peter.
He didn’t listen to her and he kept trying to tell her what to do all the time whenever she came to him with a problem.
Just recently she had told Peter about a problem she was having at work. Peter cut her off and told her that she needed to fix the problem by speaking to her manager.
Peter wasn’t interested in how this problem made her feel. He was like a robot. Whenever there was a problem all he did was try to come up with a solution.
Didn’t he have any real feelings or emotions? Why can’t he empathize with me or understand me? We’re too different, Jane though to herself. He just doesn’t get me.
As a result, Jane started to lose interest in Peter… after a couple of months of miss-communication, Jane got more and more upset with Peter until the day came when she had had enough and she ended their relationship.
Remember, when communicating with your girlfriend you shouldn’t try to tell her what to do. Listen to her, empathize with her, but don’t try to fix her problem unless she specifically asks you for help.
Your Girlfriend Is Cheating On You
You know that sickening feeling in your stomach you get when your girlfriend starts to lose interest in you and then it suddenly hits you—is she cheating on me?
The truth is, if your girlfriend suddenly starts to lose interest in you, then there’s a very good chance that she is cheating on you or thinking about leaving you for someone else.
But why would this happen?
The brutal truth is that women always seek out the strongest, most attractive males to mate with. Attraction isn’t about you or your girlfriend, it’s about your unborn children.
If your girlfriend starts to lose interest in you, it could be because she is starting to focus her interest on someone else that is displaying stronger, more attractive qualities.
This essentially means that you have allowed your girlfriend to lose attraction for you and become interested in someone else.
This happens when you make your girlfriend doubt your strength and confidence as a man (remember, strength and confidence is to women, what beauty is to men).
If you allow yourself to be outclassed by another man, then you seriously need to work on your game.
If you’ve been having intimacy with your girlfriend and she’s attached to you, then you have to really screw up big time to drive her into the arms of another man.
Unfortunately, this happens a lot. Guys get jealous, possessive, passive aggressive, wimpy and needy all the time around their girlfriends and slowly, over time, their girlfriends start to lose interest in them and get turned off.
It’s important to make sure that you don’t lose your frame around your girlfriend and let your guard down around her too much. Hold back on the sweet talk and emotional expression and save it for when it really matters.
Most importantly, don’t treat your girlfriend like the world revolves around her and she’s your little princess. If you do this, she’ll end up losing interest in you.
Your girlfriend wants a man she can look up to, it’s your job to make sure that you are that man.
You Keep Failing Your Girlfriend’s Tests
Say what you will about a woman’s tests, but women are going to keep on testing men until the end of eternity.
This is a woman’s way of checking to see if the man she is with is strong enough to mate with and provide DNA for her children.
This is why women are always looking to mate with men who are higher value than themselves—women want their offspring to be better versions of themselves.
When you face off against a woman’s tests, then you have to keep in mind that you’re up against 200,000 years of evolution—don’t take it personally.
Now a woman’s tests can start off simple enough, but if you keep on failing her tests, she’ll lose more and more attraction for you until she can’t bear to be around you any longer.
Failing a woman’s tests proves to her that you’re weak and unstable.
Here are some examples of ways in which your girlfriend might test you:
- She asks you to change your shirt (you agree, you fail the test).
- She tells you about another guy asking her out (you get upset, you fail the test).
- She says she’s thinking about ending the relationship (you beg her to stay, you fail the test).
- She doesn’t text you or call you for a day (you reach out first, you fail the test).
- She keeps bringing up something you did wrong (you keep apologizing, you fail the test).
When dealing with women, it’s always important to ask yourself: what’s the strongest course of action I can take here. What would a guy like Clint Eastwood or James Bond do in your shoes?
When in doubt (sometimes women do subtle tests), it’s always best not to say or do anything. Just ignore ignore ignore.
If you start to tune in to the fact that your girlfriend is going to test you every so often (and remember, a woman will test her man until the day he dies), then you will be much more prepared for when it does happen. You’ll expect it.
Passing your girlfriend’s tests, ensures that her attraction for you will go up. But if you continuously fail a woman’s tests, then she will start to lose interest in you and pull further and further away from you.
Your Girlfriend Is Thinking About Ending The Relationship
If your girlfriend is thinking about ending her relationship with you, then one of the first signs that she’s thinking about doing this is that she’ll start to lose interest in you.
You’ll notice the subtle signs at first. Your girlfriend isn’t as responsive as she used to be. She takes longer and longer to answer your calls and text messages.
Your girlfriend doesn’t seem as affectionate anymore. She doesn’t want to spend as much time with you and she doesn’t want to talk to you as much.
This is all happening because your girlfriend is thinking about ending the relationship with you.
So what do you do? Besides reading the Get Her Back (action plan), which is crucial if you want to know how to re-attract your girlfriend, you need to also mirror your girlfriend’s actions.
Your girlfriend loses interest in you and pulls away, you do the same. You have to mirror her actions.
Don’t ask your girlfriend what’s wrong. Instead wait for her to tell you if she wants a break or needs space. When she does this then simply mirror your girlfriend’s words and actions and tell her that you feel the same way.
When your girlfriend pushes you away and loses interest in you, simply mirror her actions and act the same way. Women want to chase the man they love. This will make her feel as though she’s with a high value man and that she’s a part of your journey—not the other way around.
If your girlfriend is really thinking about ending the relationship with you, one of the first signs is that she’s started to lose interest in you and the relationship.
It’s important not to freak out at this time. Simply accept what is happening and mirror your girlfriend’s actions. If you do this the right way, you’ll easily be able to re-attract your girlfriend and regain her full interest in you again.